According to the College of Medicine at the University of Ibadan, “Over 1.6million cases of anxiety are reported in Nigeria every year.” In a culture where “It is well” and “I’m fine” is the response to circumstances that affect our emotional and mental health, that statistics call for attention.
You’re not Weird
Being anxious (whether worrying or having anxiety disorder) isn’t an only-you thing. You don’t have to feel bad that you’re the only one who experiences that. A simple explanation for anxiety would be thinking about stuff that is present in your life and it’s quite normal to experience anxiety.
Anxiety poses the questions “What next? What if?” Which in most cases we don’t have an answer to and that leaves in an unpleasant emotional state. As I said, it’s not an only-you thing. I cannot overemphasize that because when you begin to think about situations happening around as events particularly happening to you it becomes more dangerous to your mental health.
Finding it hard to figure your life is headed is completely normal.
It’s only natural for you to worry about things. When questions like the following spring up in your thoughts things can get a little shaky for you. What if I can’t pay my bills? Where is my next paycheck coming from? Now that I’ve lost my job what’s next? You see how people are figuring out their lives and you feel like you’re really behind. It’s only natural for you to worry about things.
I’m more of a very practical person so I’m not just going to talk about anxiety but also how to handle it as best as you can.
Response to Anxiety
Firstly, you should always put this in mind “you’re not alone.” I know I said that earlier (pardon me) but you see there is a kind of joyful hope that comes when you just know that there is someone who is going and has gone through that same situation bugging you. So don’t forget that.
Secondly, (this is not general) people who get anxious or worried about something do that because they haven’t been able to plan for things they have control over. Please do realize that taking a little bit of time to plan things out would throw worry and anxiety out the door.
Listen, inasmuch as I want to bring comfort you need to understand this truth. Having plans and backup plans would make you less bothered. Figure out which situation is getting you all worked up, isolate it, meditate, and write down what you can do. Never underestimate the power of your beautiful mind. It’s really damn creative and resourceful.
Then when you get scared that everything you’re doing will ultimately fail and your life would crumble like broken china plates, remember fear is just your body not wanting you to do what you ought to do. What if I fail anxiety questions should be answered with “what if I win?”
Yes, there’s a chance it might not work out(which you would learn from) and there’s a chance it would work out. It might not make sense now and you might become best friends with failure but keep on. There is no neutral ground. Go with the chance that it would work out and you would win eventually.