Two weeks ago, I was harassed by a transport worker. A chat that could have ended in 1minute lasted for over 15 minutes and I was not even given the opportunity to speak. Quite conflicted on what to do as I couldn’t leave without concluding with him, I decided to remain as calm as possible. It wasn’t easy, to be honest, but I did try.
There was a little voice that wanted me to engage in a shouting competition. I mean why would one feel so comfortable harassing someone else for your shortcomings. When the opportunity to air my thoughts presented itself, I tried my best to do so calmly. I wasn’t going to be cheated but at the same time, I wasn’t going to descend to his level and start exchanging words.
It’s amazing how so many people want to take advantage of the good side of others. They know how hard it is for this fellow to get angry or flare up and they take advantage of it by consistently cheating, backbiting, ridiculing, or being mean to them. I mean people can be much sometimes.
You give them a dot and they create a huge circle at your own expense. Usually, they won’t take that attitude from someone else but don’t mind giving out that same attitude. If you’re a person who gives even at your own expense, you’d notice how much some “amazing friends” would keep draining you whether they have or they don’t till you broke then they leave.
It’s hard for you to ask but if you do, they’ve got tons of excuses why they can’t be of help. I’m always conflicted with such behaviors and ask “Why to display an attitude you can’t tolerate?” Let’s not even get started on the”entitled folks” or “am I your mate gang” or “holier than thou folks who think everyone else apart from them is doing it badly.”
Please don’t get me wrong, I am not judging them nor do I hate them. My post is for people who get frustrated with their friends, family, or spouse when they behave funny because truth be told those are the ‘people’ who display attitudes they can’t tolerate. There are times it can be overwhelming and you want to flare up and give them a piece of their cake. Also, I am not judging you if you feel like that it’s only natural. I guess they’ve been on the wrong side of life so much they don’t know any better.
My decision to remain calm during my amazing encounter with the transport worker was because I didn’t have the energy to exchange words. Please read that again. I have come to a stage where I don’t have the energy for negativity and it seems everywhere we turn to today there is negativity.
This negative energy is really what makes people behave absurdly. If you want a happy and joyful life, you need to learn to let go easily. If you do allow yourself to react to the negativity people let out, you allow the cycle to continue. You’d feel the happiness and peace get sapped out of you leaving anger, frustration, hate, and all of that inside of your being.
In turn, you dish this out to someone else who then transfers it on to the next person. Sometimes, one wouldn’t feel so good after getting angry, exchanging words, or lashing out. NB: I said sometimes.
The better way to live is to understand that you need to be a carrier of abounding goodness and love to fellow humans whether they reciprocate it or not. You’re not doing it for them, you’re doing it for you. Am I saying you shouldn’t let people know when they hurt you? No, I am not saying that.
You should express what you feel but not with negative energy. The vicious cycle of negativity can end and more compassion for our fellow humans increased. When I see people furious, screaming, or mad I try to imagine what sort of hurt they just might be going through. I hear someone saying I’m hurt too, I can’t stand by and let people treat me badly. If so there’s a better way to deal with the hurt instead of taking it out on someone who has no idea of what you might be going through or on someone who is also hurt.
Dear friend, it’s not when you become a millionaire that you can do good and effect change in society. A little behavioral change can rekindle someone’s hope in humanity in different ways. We can’t keep this cycle of pain and hurt going. The negativity needs to stop and it can begin with you. When we do not allow what others do to define how we respond or live but to be true to our compassionate nature. This is a better way to live.